Dating Guide

LDS Dating Tips for Latter-day Saint Singles

Dating as a Latter-day Saint comes with its own joys and its own questions. Whether you're fresh off a mission, back in the dating pool, or just tired of generic apps, these tips will help you date with intention — and a little more fun.

1. Be clear about your standards and goals

The most important LDS dating advice is also the simplest: know what you want and say it kindly. Are you looking for temple marriage? Do shared standards around the Word of Wisdom, the Sabbath, and Church activity matter to you? Being upfront saves everyone time and attracts people who actually fit. On a faith-centered app you can set these preferences directly, so you're matched on what matters most instead of guessing.

2. Let your faith show — authentically

You don't have to turn your profile into a testimony meeting, but don't hide what's central to you either. Share how you serve, what you're studying in Come Follow Me, the mission you served, or the things that bring you peace. Specifics ("early-morning temple trips and Dutch-oven cooking") are far more attractive than clichés ("I love my faith and family").

3. Date with intention — but keep it light

Intentional doesn't mean intense. Plan real dates, ask thoughtful questions, and pay attention to how someone treats people around them. At the same time, give things room to breathe. Not every date has to be "the one" — some are just good practice, good company, or a new friend.

4. Meet in person sooner, safely

Endless texting kills momentum. Once there's a genuine connection, suggest a simple first date in a public place. Tell a friend or family member where you're going and when you'll check in. Apps like Deseret Singles build this in with SafeDate™ — share your live location and a check-in time, and if you miss it, a trusted contact is alerted automatically.

5. Lean on the tools built for you

Use what a faith-focused app gives you: verified profiles so you know you're talking to real people, filters for temple attendance and activity level, and in-person events like firesides, institute, and service projects where meeting someone feels natural. Group activities take the pressure off and let you see who someone really is.

6. Be patient and kind to yourself

Finding an eternal companion is a process, not a transaction. There will be slow weeks and awkward dates. Keep showing up, keep your standards, and treat yourself with the same charity you'd offer a friend. The right relationship is worth the wait.

Frequently asked questions

Is it okay to date someone who is less active in the Church?

That's a personal decision, and many strong marriages have started this way. What matters most is shared values and direction. Be honest early about what Church activity and temple goals mean to you, and pay attention to where someone is heading, not just where they are today.

How soon should temple marriage come up when dating?

You don't need to raise it on the first date, but don't wait months either. Once there's genuine interest, a light, honest conversation about long-term goals — including temple marriage — saves heartache and shows maturity. A faith-centered app lets you set these preferences up front so you're matched on them from the start.

How do I share my standards without scaring someone off?

Lead with who you are, not a list of rules. Share what your faith looks like in everyday life and let your standards show naturally. The right person will be drawn to your clarity, and the wrong fit will self-select out — which is a good thing.

What are good first-date ideas that fit LDS standards?

Keep it public, low-pressure, and conversation-friendly: a walk, a bite to eat, a visit to temple grounds, institute or a fireside, or a group service activity. Group and activity dates take the pressure off and let you see how someone treats others.

Is online dating appropriate for Latter-day Saints?

Yes. Church leaders have encouraged members to use the tools available to meet people, including reputable apps. Choosing a faith-centered app with verified profiles and built-in safety features like SafeDate™ helps you focus on people who share your values.

Ready to put these into practice? Deseret Singles is a dating app built from the ground up for Latter-day Saints — verified members, SafeDate™ safety, faith-based matching, and real-life events.